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"It is one of the deepest sorrows of my heart that this birthright has been denied me: the knowledge of how to live in the world, perfected and tried and handed down through hundreds of generations of my ancestors."
"Question: I'm confused about the idea of child-centerdness, when the child's in control of everyone,like you said (unCC) and the idea of a child's freedom to choose (CC?) everything. Are they one and the same?"
"Question: How is saying 'You can nurse after I am done with dishes,' different from 'You can nurse after this mess is cleaned up?'"
"I think it is a grave mistake to withhold things that our children need because of our fear of what their future behavior might be."
"Tribal peoples must raise their children a certain way, lest they perish."
"Question: Is it damaging to nurse an upset child upon request? Won't this prevent the child from expressing his feelings of anger or sadness and lead to repression and control patterns (see The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter)?
"I'm going to ramble a bit about my understanding of evolution and the continuum and dealing with novel experiences."
"Is it continuum correct parenting to use a high chair?"
"It is possible to be a CC parent, a very GOOD CC parent, with very CC children who eat HoHos and shop at the mall."
"Question: I'm wondering if my plan to limit/deemphasize toys and other things in order to prevent my child from becoming too attatched to those things may backfire and result in her becoming obsessed with things because she feels deprived."
"The fact that we build things and shape our physical environment does not make it 'unnatural.'"
"Question: Is it harder to be non-coercive with an older child?"
"Being child-centered isn't about any single activity. Being child-centered is about an inappropriate shift of responsibility and decision-making power to the child."
"Many people don't like guns. I don't see them as something to like or dislike particularly. They are tools, powerful tools, but tools none the less. There are appropriate ways to use them and inappropriate ways to use them, but I don't like or dislike them more than a screwdriver, for instance, which could easily be used in a an equally deadly fashion."
"Question: Do you let your children play with knives?
September 19, 2001
"The Yequana don't have a word for work, except for a word to describe the kind of work they do for hire."
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